Every single girl has heard the typical “You’ll find love when you least expect it” reassurances from friends and family who are just trying to help. Really, they mean well. They know that awful, desperate feeling you sometimes have when you think about how long it’s been since you went on a promising date. But they also know that obsessing over when and where you’re going to meet someone isn’t helping anything. It’s like staring at the clock, willing the seconds to go by faster. It just doesn’t work. So, while “putting yourself out there” is necessary and everything, there’s also no harm in putting your love life on cruise control and focusing on other things for awhile. Maybe you’ll be pleasantly surprised and love will find you while you’re busy having a life.
1. YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.
If you want to attract the right kind of guy for you, you have to accept who you are first. You want a guy who is confident, successful, and content, right? Then you have to be all those things too, or at least actively working towards them.
2. GUYS CAN SMELL DESPERATION A MILE AWAY.
You think you’re being subtle when you latch onto any guy who shows the tiniest interest in you, but you’re not. No guy is looking for a woman with “my clock is ticking” practically tattooed on her forehead.