2. Before them, it was us.
Before they existed, it was the 2 of us. We fell in love, we missed classes together, we talked on the phone all night (and it was tied to the wall with a cord), and then we decided to be together forever. We were at the beginning of the path. And we started this whole family thing. Then we had our beautiful children. Of course, we are happy to have them. But our marriage is sacred. And we have to do everything to protect it.
3. After them, it will be us.
Nothing lasts forever. There will come a moment when the children will grow up and leave the nest. I don’t know about you but there is no place in my house for a 30-year-old child. So, when they leave our house, have their own families and raise their own children, I would like my relationship with my wife to remain as strong and intimate as it was in the very beginning. And in order to have such a future, we need to work on the relationship right now. Our relationship should be the priority. Of course, it is not as easy as it seems.
4. We need to set a future example.
As I have mentioned before, the children see us and learn from us. They do what we do and watch our every step. I often say, “We are raising adults, not children.” Again, I don’t know about you but I want my children to grow up with a normal attitude toward dating, love, and family. And I want our marriage to be an example for them. So, my wife comes before my children. They are really close, but still after my wife.
At the end of the day, we all tend to be tired and tense. And yes, your children need you, they are really important. Not your hobby, not your friends, not your job. And you should care about them. But take care of your relationship first. When children see that their parents love each other, they are sure that the parents love them. But the most important thing is that they will have confidence in themselves and in the world around them.
We have crazy schedules. We always lack free time. We spend the entire day with our children. And this is why I ask them to go to their rooms at 9 pm every evening. This is why my wife and I have a date twice a month and we go out. Because it matters.
This is why my wife comes before my children.
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